We’ve all felt it: that quiet pang when someone else’s life looks shinier, easier, or more successful than our own. Maybe it’s a friend’s career milestone splashed across LinkedIn, a perfectly filtered vacation photo, or simply the endless highlight reels we scroll past each day. However it shows up, comparison has a way of pulling us out of our own lives and into someone else’s story. And when it becomes a habit, it leaves us depleted, restless, and disconnected.
Comparison is human, but the pace and presence of social media have amplified it to a constant hum in the background of our days. We know we should stop comparing ourselves to others, but that’s easier said than done when the triggers are always within reach. The question isn’t whether comparison will arise. (It will.) The question is how we respond when it does.
How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others—From Someone Who’s Been There
What I’ve learned is that the antidote to comparison isn’t found in deleting every app or cutting ourselves off from the world. Instead, it’s about making intentional shifts—small practices that return us to presence, remind us of our own values, and allow us to feel joy in our actual lives. Ahead, I’m sharing five practices that have helped me step out of the comparison trap and into something far more nourishing: connection, creativity, and peace.
Shift Your Focus Outward
Comparison keeps us turned inward—measuring, tallying, shrinking. One of the simplest ways to loosen its grip is to look up and shift your attention toward others. When I catch myself spiraling into self-focus (How do I measure up? Why don’t I have that yet?), it’s usually a sign that I need to re-engage with the people right in front of me.
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Instead of scrolling, I’ll step into the kitchen with my kids, call a friend, or look for small ways to offer kindness. That act of reorienting—moving from self-absorption to connection—doesn’t just distract me from comparison. It fills me with the kind of presence and joy that no number of likes could match. Real-life love, laughter, and community will always outweigh digital validation.
Try it yourself: The next time you feel pulled into comparison, pause and reach out to someone else. Send a quick text of encouragement, ask a loved one how their day is going, or step into a moment of connection offline. Notice how your energy shifts.
Choose Support Over Scarcity
It’s easy to believe that someone else’s success takes something away from us. A promotion, a book deal, a viral post—when we’re in a scarcity mindset, those moments can feel like proof that we’re falling behind. But the truth is, life isn’t a zero-sum game. There’s no universal bank account of opportunities that runs dry when someone else makes a withdrawal.
When we reframe others’ achievements as evidence of what’s possible—not proof of our own limitations—we expand instead of contracting. We can celebrate a friend’s new job, a co-worker’s creative win, or even a stranger’s beautiful home without questioning our own worth. And paradoxically, the more genuinely we celebrate others, the more freedom we feel in our own path.
Try it yourself: The next time envy creeps in, reframe it as inspiration. Leave a heartfelt comment, send a congratulatory text, or pause and say to yourself, “If it’s possible for them, it’s possible for me, too.”
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Real-life love, laughter, and community will always outweigh digital validation.
Redefine Success on Your Terms
Comparison thrives when we measure our lives against someone else’s definition of success. The number of followers, the size of a home, the pace of a career—none of these reflect the whole of a life well-lived. When we stop comparing ourselves to others and instead define success by our own values, we free ourselves from a race we never chose to run.
One of my close friends told me that her turning point came when she let go of external measures and leaned into what felt meaningful to her: creating art, building community, living slowly. Success stopped being about keeping up and started being about alignment. That shift isn’t about lowering the bar—it’s about raising it to meet the life you actually want.
Try it yourself: Write down three ways you’d measure success if no one else’s opinion mattered. Keep the list somewhere visible, and let it be your compass when comparison calls you off course.
Set Boundaries with Technology
Most of our comparison triggers live in the palm of our hand. The endless scroll of feeds makes it almost effortless to slip into measuring ourselves against others. If we want to stop comparing ourselves to others, one of the most powerful tools we have is learning where our limits are—and respecting them.
Boundaries look different for everyone. For me, it might mean no scrolling first thing in the morning so I can begin the day grounded, or setting my phone aside an hour before bed to give my mind space to rest. For you, it could mean a screen-free Saturday or turning off notifications that constantly pull you back into the noise. These simple guardrails don’t cut us off from connection. They create the space to be present in our real lives.
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Try it yourself: Choose one tech boundary to try this week—no phone in the bedroom, no scrolling after dinner, or a social media-free day on the weekend. Notice how it impacts your energy and mood.
Success stopped being about keeping up and started being about alignment. That shift isn’t about lowering the bar—it’s about raising it to meet the life you actually want.
Stay Rooted in the Present
Comparison pulls us into someone else’s life, and out of our own. The fastest way back is to return to presence: the here, the now, the small moments that give texture and meaning to our days. When you stop comparing yourself to others, you notice the beauty that’s already around you.
Presence doesn’t erase comparison, but it does shift its power. When you root yourself in gratitude for what’s in front of you, the urgency to measure against someone else begins to fade. You realize that your life, in its ordinary and imperfect wholeness, is more than enough.
Try it yourself: When comparison shows up, pause and name three things you’re grateful for in that exact moment. Let those small anchors remind you that your real life—not the one on a screen—is where fulfillment lives.
Living Free From Comparison
Comparison will always try to find its way in, but when we choose presence over pressure, connection over competition, and authenticity over appearances, its grip begins to loosen. The more we practice shifting our focus, supporting others, setting boundaries, and defining success on our own terms, the less space comparison has to thrive.
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Learning how to stop comparing yourself to others isn’t about perfection. It’s about noticing when the habit creeps in and gently guiding yourself back to what matters: your values, your people, and your life. When we return to that place, we find a freedom far greater than anything social media could offer.
So the next time you catch yourself scrolling and slipping into envy, pause. Breathe and look around. Joy is here, waiting in the present moment—yours for the noticing.
This post was last updated on October 8, 2025, to include new insights.
No matter how many turkey recipes hit the internet each November, I still find myself typing âbest Thanksgiving turkey recipeâ into Google. There are endless ways to cook a birdâstuffed, spatchcocked, even deep-friedâbut nothing compares to the timeless appeal of a brined roast turkey. When done right, it yields golden, crispy skin and tender, flavorful meat that stays perfectly juicy every time.
Of course, âsimpleâ doesnât always mean easy. Between the size of the bird, removing giblets, and mastering the brine, plenty can go wrongâresulting in a turkey thatâs dry or unevenly cooked. So, in my quest for the ultimate version, I turned to Michael Fojtasek, chef and owner of Austinâs award-winning restaurant Olamaie. He stopped by my kitchenâbrined turkey in handâto share his secrets. From the ideal brine recipe to achieving that lacquered, caramelized, crispy skin of our dreams, hereâs everything you need to know to master the brined roast turkey this Thanksgiving.
Why brine a turkey?
If youâve ever bitten into a Thanksgiving turkey that looked beautiful but tasted dry, you already know why brining matters. Brining infuses the meat with moisture and flavor from the inside out, ensuring that every bite of your brined roast turkey stays juicy and tenderâeven after hours in the oven. The salt in the brine helps the turkey retain water while it cooks, so instead of drying out, the meat stays perfectly succulent beneath that golden, crispy skin.
Beyond texture, brining is a flavor game-changer. A good turkey brineâwhether classic with herbs and citrus or spiced up with peppercorns and garlicâbuilds a depth of flavor that seasoning alone canât achieve. When you roast a brined turkey, the result is evenly seasoned meat that practically bastes itself as it cooks, making it easier to achieve that restaurant-quality balance of crispy skin and melt-in-your-mouth tenderness.
How to Brine a Turkey
First, clear some fridge space: a brined turkey does take up some room. You can use a large stockpotâhowever, for many of us, a space-saving solution is a giant Ziplock bag. (You can usually find it with the turkey supplies at your grocery store around this time of year or on Amazon.) Place the turkey in the bag with the brine to be sure it’s fully coated. Either way, Fojtasek advises using a non-reactive container and brine for 24 hours.
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What turkey is best for brining?
Fojtasek says, “The best turkey is a nice organic bird that is as fresh as possible. However, if it has been frozen, be sure to let it thaw gently in your refrigerator.” Don’t brine a turkey that’s been pre-saltedâsince the brine is full of salt, it’s already given your turkey all the seasoning it needs.
How to Give Your Turkey That Crispy, Golden Skin
Fojtasek shared his secret ingredient: sorghum syrup, a staple of classic Southern cooking. Similar in texture and color to molasses, sorghum is made from sorghum cane rather than sugar caneâand when used in the brine, its natural sugars help create that beautifully caramelized, crispy skin.
If you have the time, take one extra step after brining: remove the bird from the liquid and refrigerate it uncovered for 24 to 36 hours. Resting it breast-side up allows the skin to dry slightly and form what chefs call a pellicleâthe secret to that irresistible golden crisp.
How to Roast a Brined Turkey
When you’re ready to cook the turkey, remove it from the refrigerator two hours in advance, and preheat your oven to 350°F. Stuff the turkey with lemon, onion, garlic, and thyme.
Next, you will truss the turkey, then pour a small amount of oil over the breast and rub it evenly all over the bird. This will give it a nice, even color when it cooks. Season with salt and black pepper, then place it in the oven for 2-3 hours, until the temperature of the thickest part of the thigh reaches 160°F.
Chef Michael Fojtasek shares the secrets to making a perfectly brined roast turkey with crispy skin–just in time for Thanksgiving!
1 whole turkey
1 lemon (cut into quarters)
1 onion (cut into quarters)
Half a head of garlic
A few sprigs of thyme
Salt & black pepper to taste
Garnish: chopped parsley and black pepper
Brine (see recipe below)
For the Turkey BrineÂ
1 1/2quarts water
5 tablespoons kosher salt
1 1/2quart ice
1 1/4cups sorghum syrup (Like Muddy Pond)
1/2 head garlic
1 onion (quartered)
3 tablespoons whole black peppercorn
4 lemons (quartered)
6 sprigs thyme
First, give your turkey a quick rinse.
Then, brine it. Make sure you use a container that is non-reactive. I generally use plastic. Brine for 24 hours. If you have time, the best next step is to remove the bird from the brine and place it uncovered in the refrigerator for an additional 24 to 36 hours. Allowing the bird to sit breast-side up for that amount of time enables the skin to form what we call a pellicle, or “the crispy.”
When you’re ready to cook the turkey, remove it from the refrigerator for two hours and preheat your oven to 350°F. Stuff it with the lemon, onion, a halved head of garlic, and a few sprigs of thyme.
Truss it. Pour a small amount of oil over the breast and rub it all over the bird evenly. This will give it a nice, even color when it cooks.
From there, I season fairly liberally with salt and ground black pepper.
Then, it goes into the oven until the temperature of the thickest part of the thigh has a thermometer reading of 160°F. This can take up to three hours or even less than two, depending on the oven.
Once it has reached the desired temperature, remove it from the oven and allow it to rest. I like to loosely cover the turkey with foil and set it aside while I finish the other parts of the meal. It needs to rest for a minimum of 20 minutes. I prefer more like 35.
When you’re ready to serve, remove the breast completely, then slice. I like to remove the legs and thighs to slice as well. Everything goes on a warm platter and gets a little chopped parsley and ground black pepper. This is a great way to execute a turkey that is all about flavor and beautiful crispy skin without doing anything crazy.
For the Turkey Brine
Place the salt, water, garlic, onion, black peppercorn, sorghum syrup, and lemons in a pot. Bring to a boil for two minutes. Pour over ice. Ideally, all of your brine is cool or, at the highest, room temperature.
Prep Time:60
Cook Time:120
This post was last updated on November 15, 2025, to include new insights.
Thereâs no denying itâholiday travel is⦠a lot. From packed airports to unpredictable delays, even the most seasoned traveler can feel their shoulders inching toward their ears. But while you canât control the chaos (and the chaos is *abundant* this holiday travel season), you can control how you move through it. These holiday travel essentials arenât about adding moreâtheyâre about designing small rituals that help you stay grounded, nourished, and calm, from the first cup of tea to the final gate call.
Lately, Iâve started treating travel days like part of the vacation itself. A cup of matcha before heading to the airport. A playlist that cues ease instead of urgency. A line-up of comfortsâelectrolytes, essential oils, cozy layersâthat turn waiting at the gate into something restorative. Itâs a mindset shift that trades stress for softness and transforms the âgetting thereâ into something you actually look forward to.
Holiday Travel Essentials: Small Luxuries That Make the Journey Feel Like the Vacation
Whether youâre flying cross-country to see family or taking a long winter drive, these small luxuries are designed to make the journey feel lighter, slower, and infinitely more enjoyable. Because when you travel well, you arrive well. And really, isn’t that the true beginning of any good trip?
How to Travel Like Itâs Part of the Vacation
Forget white-knuckling your way through the airport. Think of travel as a transition ritual. It’s the moment where the pace slows, your body softens, and presence replaces pressure.
Start your day with calm energy by swapping your usual coffee for Pique’s Matcha Green Teaâa clean, antioxidant-rich ritual that energizes without the crash.
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As you get dressed, opt for softness and intention. Haven Well Within is our go-to for elevated travel sets that blend elegance and ease: the Lurex Rib Knit Top and Maxi Skirt feel polished enough for the airport lounge, while the Tuxedo-Stripe Funnelneck Pullover and matching pants strike the perfect note between cozy and chic.
Dressing for travel is its own art form, and it starts with thoughtful layering. A lightweight, packable puffer is the unsung hero of winter travelâwarm enough to handle icy terminals, compact enough to stow away once you board. And for an instant upgrade? The Haven Well Within Cashmere Wrap. Wear it as a scarf through security, then unfold it mid-flight into the most luxurious blanket youâll ever wrap around your shoulders.
The Little Luxuries That Change Everything
Sometimes, itâs the smallest rituals that change your whole travel experience. A few sensory anchorsâscents, textures, or quiet comfortsâcan turn even the most chaotic day into something calm and grounding.
Keep your thoughts anchored with a stunning and minimalist journal from one of our favorite brands. It’s a beautiful way to slow down, jot intentions, or notice whatâs around you. And donât forget the inner essentials: Sakaraâs Fiber Super Powder (because yes, travel does a number on your digestive system). And their cult-favorite Calm + Burn Gummy Bundle keeps your body balanced while youâre on the go. A few Arrae Bloat capsules tucked into your carry-on are the only way we know to feel good after airport meals.
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Each of these simple touches adds up to something bigger: a sense of ritual that makes travel feel like self-care.
Rituals for Calm Travel Days
Building small rituals into your travel rhythm can make even the busiest day feel restorative.
Slip on the Lunya Weighted Washable Silk Sleep Mask and apply Summer Fridays Jet Lag Eye Patches mid-flight for an instant in-air refresh. Keep your phone tucked away and choose a book or playlist that expands time instead of compressing it. Breathe deeply, sip something nourishing, and let yourself soften into the moment.
Arriving, Rested and Ready
With a few mindful choices and small, grounding luxuries, travel can become what it was always meant to be: the first chapter of the journey itself. The moment you slip on your cashmere wrap, take a slow sip of matcha, or breathe in the calm of a familiar scent, you begin to arriveânot just at your destination, but in yourself.
The secret is remembering that travel isnât time lostâitâs an invitation to pause. To move slowly through transitions, to savor small comforts, and to let your rituals hold you steady when the world around you feels rushed. So this season, as you pack your bags and map your routes, think of these not as just holiday travel essentials, but as tools to help you carry ease wherever you go.
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This post was last updated on November 14, 2025, to include new insights.
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There’s one trick that takes quinoa from bland to crave-worthy: cook it in bone broth. It’s wild how much flavor it adds—rich, savory, and deeply satisfying. Plus, it boosts the protein so this salad actually keeps you full.
This quinoa and cauliflower salad is a sleeper hit in my kitchen. It’s so much more than the sum of its parts—just quinoa, roasted cauliflower, and a few pantry staples that somehow turn into something you can’t stop eating. Toss it all with a citrus-honey vinaigrette, crunchy cashews, sweet raisins, and a handful of parsley, and you’ve got that perfect mix of bright, fresh, and cozy.
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I love making a big batch at the start of the week. It’s one of those dishes that tastes even better after sitting in the fridge overnight—the flavors deepen, the raisins stay juicy, and it’s just as good cold as it is warm. For an effortless weeknight dinner, serve with hot honey salmon, roast chicken, or a scoop of creamy hummus, and a simple arugula salad. Each bite delivers a balance of sweet, savory, and crunchy textures—a dish that’s as nourishing as it is beautiful.
Why You’ll Feel So Good After Eating This
Each ingredient pulls its weight—here’s why this salad is as nourishing as it is delicious:
Quinoa: A complete plant-based protein with all nine essential amino acids. High in fiber to keep you full and support digestion.
Bone Broth: Rich in collagen, minerals, and amino acids that support joint and gut health while giving the quinoa a deep, savory flavor.
Cauliflower: Packed with antioxidants and vitamin C, it’s the unsung hero for glowing skin and strong immunity.
Parsley: More than a garnish—loaded with vitamin K, folate, and iron for energy and bone health.
Cashews: Add satisfying crunch and healthy fats to keep blood sugar steady.
Raisins: A natural touch of sweetness plus potassium and iron for an energy boost.
Citrus-Honey Vinaigrette: Lemon brightens everything while honey provides antioxidants and just enough sweetness to balance the flavors.
How to Roast Cauliflower Perfectly
Roasting cauliflower is where the magic happens. Toss the florets with a drizzle of olive oil, a pinch of kosher salt, and a crack of black pepper. Spread them out on a baking sheet and roast at 400°F for 20–25 minutes, until the edges are golden and slightly caramelized. The result? Tender, nutty, slightly sweet bites that add warmth and depth to every forkful.
How to Serve It
This is the kind of food that makes you feel nourished, balanced, and a little more grounded—exactly what I want this time of year.
Pro tip: After cooking your quinoa, stir in the raisins, cover the pot, and let them steam for five minutes. They’ll plump up beautifully and add that little burst of sweetness in every bite.
This nourishing quinoa salad with roasted cauliflower, cashews, and citrus-honey vinaigrette is packed with protein, flavor, and feel-good ingredients.
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1/2 cup cooked quinoa
1 cup bone broth
1/4 cup raisins
1/2 head cauliflower, chopped into small pieces
1/4 cup roasted cashews, roughly chopped
1 cup parsley, roughly chopped
kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper
For the Honey-Citrus Vinaigrette:
juice of a lemon
2 tablespoons olive oil
big squeeze of honey
1 tablespoon dijon mustard
1 chopped garlic clove
kosher salt & freshly ground black pepper, to taste
Cook quinoa according to package directions, swapping bone broth for water.
Meanwhile, make the vinaigrette by whisking all the ingredients together.
When it’s cooked, turn off the heat, toss in raisins, and cover to let them steam inside the pot for 5 minutes. (This makes them plump and juicy.)
In a serving bowl, add chopped cauliflower, cashews, and parsley, then add the cooked quinoa. Drizzle over vinaigrette, and toss it all together.
I like to serve this with some hummus, grilled chicken, salmon, or your protein of choice, and a simple arugula salad for such a satisfying and healthy dinner.
